Letting guys plan dates is one of the first I’d get rid of.
Men, who typically tell me they’re spontaneous and easygoing, would feel a lot less pressure if women gave some suggestions.
We have been taught, in all areas of life, to be the extremely accommodating sex.
We’ve been socialized to do this; any woman who seems the slightest bit demanding draws ire in a way men probably would not.
The most likely explanation is that women, who are generally less likely to initiate contact, have a higher threshold when they do so.
(Unlike swipe-based Tinder, Hinge is based on a system of “liking” some particular aspect of a person’s profile.)The reason for this gender disparity is probably not that women are more appearance-focused than men.Consider planning a team effort — and another way to gauge true interest. never If he’s serious about exploring your connection, it won’t matter how the date arises; there will be way less pressure on him to be the right kind of fun for you, and he’ll find time for the date (or make another suggestion if he simply can’t make yours work).If a guy mentions he’d like to see you, make concrete suggestions, like, “How about such-and-such concert on Friday at 7 p.m.? If he’s stringing you along, he will Perhaps this is an unwritten rule, but it’s something a lot of female daters have historically done.However, my absolute favorite way is probably the simplest: Be real. If you are consistently gut-checking, wondering if your behaviors read “too interested,” then you’re not acting crazy.The good guys have perhaps barely registered your interest at all, and you’re not filtering hard enough for the bad ones (we’ll get to that; keep reading).