Friends first dating
There has to be an activity where we can both contribute our own skills and appreciate/value what the other has to offer.
When two men affirm each other’s usefulness and significance, friendship is almost bound to arise.”–Matt, Distilled Man reader Keeping friends as you get older is the difficult part. you may get to hang out every once in a while but just like anything that you want to grow it needs to be nurtured and attended to.
Even if you think you’re being judged when you talk to another guy, most likely he’s being more critical of himself than he is of you. Johnny Carson did 4,000 shows with the Tonight Show and said there wasn’t a single episode where he wasn’t nervous beforehand.
The key is acknowledging your nerves and then calmly stepping past them.
Once you do that, there are a number of things you can do to increase your chances of making new guy friends.
But even if you feel desperate to make new guy friends, you’ve got to relax.
The end of high school and college seem to be the prime time for men to make friends with other guys.
This is when we start to zero in on our interests and begin finding paths for our adult lives.
I am good at making acquaintances with NEW guys that I meet. But on a weekend, I’d rather work in my yard all day and relax by the grill in the evening than hang with any “NEW” friend.I can (theoretically) go up to a girl at a bar or coffee shop and start talking to her. Or, the conversation ends after a while, and you both go your separate ways—still no real consequences. If you crave more male friendships in your life but feel anxious or uncertain about how to do it, don’t worry—there is hope.The first step is getting over any fears about “measuring up.” Remember, everyone gets insecure, and you’re always your own worst critic.Yet, according to research, we crave intimacy in our friendships just as much as women.Worst of all, this lack of close relationships could be very, very bad for us.