Reviews of interdating
They compare the Jewish parent or grandparent to a red sock in a load of white laundry, coloring everything it touches.
Much of this book is devoted to describing the search for identity that these adult children undertake, with all of its fascinating variations.
We encounter a “semi-Semitic Jewish hillbilly,” a “religious Roman Catholic/ethnic Zionist Jew,” and sets of siblings who have chosen wildly diverging identities in adulthood.
The authors mourn the fact that those of us who choose to live as Jews need “a thick skin and a mulish stubbornness in order to remain in a camp that frequently views us as marginal members at best.” They point out that the romantic attachment many Jews feel to traditional European Jewish culture cannot define American Judaism of the future, reminding us that: “No religious culture in a free society can count on ethnic bonding alone to retain its members.” In the conclusion of their book, Goodman-Malamuth and Margolis assert that “the long-term mission of the Jewish community should be to ensure that all descendants of interfaith marriage love the part of themselves that is Jewish, however they choose to identify.” This is a subtly radical idea.
December, 1998 Two reviews: When this book first appeared more than a decade ago, I devoured it from cover to cover.
As the adult child of an interfaith marriage, I took great comfort in knowing that I was not alone in the world.